Not feeling the affection lately!
Between our four kids' busy schedule, arguing over my husband's daughter, my "girl" time, my husband's herpes simplex cold sore on his mouth, and then arguing about my husband's daughter again (which we are still doing), I'm sure not feeling the love lately!
I am actually too angry to care at this point. What we are arguing about is not scheduled to happen for a couple more weeks so I would imagine the next couple weeks will be tense. Oh the fun of marriage to a non-custodial father when we don't agree!
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Out-of-Wedlock Birth Rates Rise
Almost four in ten children (40%) were born out of wedlock according to a NY Times article this year. You're probably thinking it is due to teen pregnancies but it's not. Their numbers actually went down for teens (23% of the numbers). It went up for women in their 20's (60% of the numbers). Our family is no different. My two stepchildren were both born out-of-wedlock. We have six children total so that is about 33% for our family.
I can't imagine all of these are "oopsies". So, why are women choosing to have children and putting off buying bridesmaid gifts and making it legal?
Is marriage becoming irrelevant for a lot of couples who choose to live together instead? Is the high rate of divorce putting people off? Is the fact that we are living longer, and people don't want to spend the rest of their lives with the same person anymore? Marriage isn't the financial necessity it once seemed to be now that women have good careers as well. So, is it becoming irrelevant?
To me, my vows are very relevant. If I'd not found a husband by a certain age and I was financially sound, I likely would have gone ahead and had a child anyway (and added to the statistic) but my goal was always to find somebody I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and raise children with together. Everything I do, every decision we make together, is done with that unity in mind. I think it is important that my children have two parents who love each other.
I can't imagine all of these are "oopsies". So, why are women choosing to have children and putting off buying bridesmaid gifts and making it legal?
Is marriage becoming irrelevant for a lot of couples who choose to live together instead? Is the high rate of divorce putting people off? Is the fact that we are living longer, and people don't want to spend the rest of their lives with the same person anymore? Marriage isn't the financial necessity it once seemed to be now that women have good careers as well. So, is it becoming irrelevant?
To me, my vows are very relevant. If I'd not found a husband by a certain age and I was financially sound, I likely would have gone ahead and had a child anyway (and added to the statistic) but my goal was always to find somebody I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and raise children with together. Everything I do, every decision we make together, is done with that unity in mind. I think it is important that my children have two parents who love each other.
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